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Author Linda Bolton - Writer, Blogger

Month: September 2017

14 Myths About Being a Senior Citizen

Okay, first of all, let me start out by saying I refuse to be called a senior. I don’t feel like one (most days) and I don’t think I look my age (most days).  Also, let me preface by saying the below myths are ones I believed when I was in my twenties. (So be prepared young’ins, your day is coming too).

  • Your hair is blue or purple gray
    • Mine is brown and will stay that way for a long time
    • I do have friends embracing their gray but without the blue or purple tint
  • You’re a senior at 50 years old  – The age of a senior varies on who you ask…
    • Social Security says 67
    • AARP says 50
    • Medicare says 65
    • DMV says 79
    • 401k/IRA says 70
    • Denny’s says 55
    • I personally think it’s a state of mind – Although a discount helps!
  • You become a senior when you have grandchildren
    • I have friends in their late 30’s and early 40’s become grandparents. I doubt they will want to be called seniors at that age
    • I have senior friends that are still parents (of school age children) and not grandparents yet
  • Seniors take a lot of medicine and only talk about their doctor’s appointments
    • I only take 1 pill.  And I know younger folk taking way more meds than I do.
    • I rarely have doctor’s appointments
  • It’s the “Golden Years”
    • I’m not sure what that’s supposed to even mean. If they’re referring to lots of gold for my retirement, I assure you, I have no gold and have not planned to retire at this rate
  • You’re as young as you feel
    • My brain tells me I’m still 25 years old but some days my body disagrees
    • When I feel 25, do I look 25?
  • You’re children will take care of you
    • We all know that happens for a few folks but reality is most of us are on our own – in the planning and in the paying.
    • Many children don’t even visit their parents in later years – claiming their too busy, etc.
  • Retirement is the best time of your life
    • I think that depends on how much money you have, how good your health is, and whether you enjoy gardening (yuck to the gardening!)
    • I know many who find retirement lonely and boring. I highly doubt it’s the best time of their lives
  • When you’re a senior, others’ opinions don’t matter
    • I think if others’ opinions bothered you when you were younger, they probably still will. Stop worrying about others’ opinions while you’re young. It’s wasted energy!
  • Seniors bird watch
    • Ah, no…at least not all of them. I will not be bird watching!
  • Seniors sit around talking about the good ‘ole days
    • There’s really no point. Youngsters don’t believe us when we tell them there were 4 channels on TV, no microwaves, no cell phones and no computers.
    • Our oldies music is 70’s and 80’s. I’m sorry but that doesn’t seem that long ago and those old dudes are still concert touring.
  • You’ve developed patience
    • Ah, nope! I think I have less. I just don’t feel like I have the time to deal with stupid people!
  • You’re an empty nester
    • I have friends who had children late in life and still have school age children living with them
    • Your older children come back home
    • Your grandchildren come to live with you

If you’re a “Senior”, are there any myths I missed? What are your thoughts? Please share on the comment button above!

 

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What will Romance and Marriage be like in 100 years?

Now, I’m not a paranormal writer (at least, not yet) but you do have to wonder…

Look back 100 years – 1917

  • Some marriages were still arranged
  • Dating was done in groups or with a chaperone
  • Receiving gifts was very much a part of the romance
  • Virginity was more common until the wedding night
  • Many women married in their teens, not finishing high school
  • Women over 25 years old were considered spinsters
  • It was romantic to cook a lovely meal with a candle lit table setting
  • Kink was considered something very private, as well as the act of sex
  • Sex was often times considered only for procreation
  • Marriages lasted many years – divorce not being considered, even in the worse circumstances due to its stigma.

Looking at today – 2017

  • Many couples meet via social media or internet dating sites
  • Dating is rarely chaperoned
  • Gifts are typically only given for special occassions
  • Virginity is a rarity  – many couples have sex by the third date, if not sooner
  • Many women opt for high school and college graduation prior to considering marriage
  • Many women wait until their 30’s and 40’s to marry the first time – waiting until their careers are established or hoping to find the right one later on when they’re more mature – avoiding divorce
  • A romantic dinner out is preferred to avoid cleanup
  • Kink is freely talked about in order to find a more suitable mate
  • Sex is considered a must not an option  – even without the need to procreate, thanks to advances in birth control
  • It’s typical to find a mate who has been married multiple times due to divorce being a ready option for difficult relationships

Flash Forward 100 years – 2117

  • Couple paring will be arranged for more equality in intellect
  • Dating will be obsolete
  • Gifts will be unnecessary
  • Virginity will be in demand as to keep couple paring limited
  • Advanced education for both parties will be the norm
  • All will be pared by age 30
  • Kink will again be private and underground
  • Sex will be demanded for only procreation, all other options for sex will be private and underground
  • Divorce will be obsolete

Of course, all this is my own personal option.  What do you think romance and marriage will be like in 100 years? I’d love to hear your ideas.

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