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Author Linda Bolton - Writer, Blogger

Tag: goals

Planning A New Year

I know, I know, it’s resolution time. But really, how many times have you followed through with them? I call them goals in the hope that I’ll stick to them.

A week, two weeks tick by, and life takes over and the goal goes out the window.  I get caught up in the stress and old habits and within days the new year’s plan is forgotten.

So, what’s the plan this year? To be more focused on the important things. 2016 was full of surprises…good surprises but surprises none the less.

 

First, I got married. We had the funnest wedding, Halloween themed with costumes all around. We’re so appreciative of those that shared our day with us. It couldn’t have been any better.

Second, I finished my 3rd book. I’m working on the plot for the 4th and for some none romance books as well.

Third, I found a writing partner. She’s been super motivating and excited. She’s working on her first two books.

So, what does all this mean for 2017?

Well, I’ll be self-publishing this year or working with a new publisher. We’ll  see what happens. In the meanwhile, you can get signed copies of Take 2 and Incantation for $10 each (US only), until their gone. If you’re interested, email me at lindambolton@gmail.com. Payment made through PayPal.

I’ll be attending RT Con this year!! Whoop! I’m really excited! My writing partner and I are going for the first time. It looks like an amazing event chalk full of great workshops and fun. We’re really looking forward to it.

Of course, there’s the never ending diet. Ok, ok, changing my food choices. I really need to get this extra weight off. Everyone I’m close to is losing weight through one means or another. I’m not going to be the odd man out. So…a grocery shopping for veggies I will go!

I’m, also, determined to learn how to set up a newsletter. So, if you want to support your friendly neighborhood author, please sign up on this website. I promise to be quippy and short, with minimal evasiveness to your email pool.

Help me ring in the new year and keep my goals. Share yours in the comment section (found at the top of the post) and we can help each other out.

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Get Motivated and Make this Your Year

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Can you believe it’s 2016 already? Last year flew by. What’s this year hold for you?

I don’t do actual resolutions, I call them goals. I have goals every year and usually life gets in the way pretty damn quick and blows them out of the water. I have a friend that chooses a word to represent her year instead. I like that idea. Maybe my outcome will be better when I looked back at 2016 next January.

I think my word for 2016 will be FOCUS. I need to stay focused on my health (the never ending twenty-five pounds I wrestle with), my writing (I plan to finish two novels this year), and on my family. I have so many things going on it’s easy to get out of FOCUS. I lose sight of what’s important to me and let the world take over.

I challenge you to pick a word for 2016. Share in the comments and let’s all have a better year!

 

 

 

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Do Friends Make Better Lovers

Do friends make better lovers? Do they make better long-term partners?

Most couples become couples first, friends second.  Is it better the other way around? I’ve been told by many, yes. But doesn’t that screw up Dating 101? You know, you meet at a party, eyes link from across the room, you’re drawn to each other, you go have coffee, talk into the night, and BAM, your dating! If you’re friends first, how does that change things?

If you’re friends, from school, neighbors, work and then you start to date, is it because you were always attracted to each other? Or is it because you know each other’s flaws already, know what irks one another, what each one likes, that a relationship can bloom?

Have you ever had a roommate? Was the roommate your best friend? Did you stay roommates for long? I know I’ve had very close friends as roommates and, generally, we couldn’t stay roommates in order to preserve our relationship.  Does that hold true if your the opposite sex? Can a man and a woman be best friends and roommates and not have a relationship? Aren’t we made to be drawn to one another? If you have a best friend that is of the opposite sex are you destined to become more? Is it the nature of the beast?

I’m not saying men and women can’t be friends and not be sexually drawn to one another.  I’m talking best friends. Women know what I’m saying. When we have best friends we do a lot of things together, tell our deepest, darkest secrets, reveal ourselves. Once you’ve done that with a man have you gone too far? Have you pushed your relationship to the next level? Can men process information like that and not see a deeper attraction than just buddies? Can a woman? If you take the next step does it give you a deeper relationship than starting out as a dating couple to begin with?

For example, lets go back to the Dating 101 scenario.  You’re strangers, having coffee, talking about superficial basics of first contact. Next step is the first date.  Then the second, and so on. At what point are you comfortable enough to reveal your deepest, darkest secrets? Will you ever share your lifelong dreams and goals? Oh, you’ll share some but do you share all, without the fear of rejection? Is it easier to share those deepest thoughts with your friend than your lover? Sure it is.

So in saying that, the question is, how do you know if your friend should become more to you? As a friend they accept you, warts and all, usually from the beginning. In Dating 101, you’re much pickier; sometimes dumping someone for a flaw you should have accepted, would have as a friend, to find out they would have been a great catch later on but you blew it.

The only thing I can say is enjoy your friendship.  Don’t push it along.  Let nature take its course. Not every relationship is meant to take the next step.  Sometimes friendship is wonderful just the way it is and sometimes its better when its more.

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